Unfortunately, there will come a time in everyone’s life where it is necessary to talk to our senior parents about moving from their Windsor home. It’s a difficult process, particularly if the home is too large and has become too expensive and difficult to maintain. Let’s be honest, there is no easy way to do this, particularly if you are met with resistance. Here are some helpful hints to keep in mind:
1. Keep your emotions at bay. It’s important that you keep calm when discussing this issue. For seniors, their Windsor home equals security, so chances are, emotions will surface. Keep yours under wrap.
2. Explain why it is the correct decision. Explain it in practical terms that it is important that are safe and well cared for. Keep the attention on the benefits that they will gain, not that you don’t want to worry anymore.
3. Don’t make false promises. Don’t tell them that they can always move home if they don’t like it.
4. Give parents plenty of time to absorb the information. Chances are, you will be met with resistance. If this is the case, take a deep breath and give them time. Let them talk, air their concerns and fears. Be sympathetic. Remember, chances are we will be in this situation one day. Treat them how you would want to be treated.
5. Let them know that they won’t be alone, that you will still be actively involved in their lives and that only their address will change.
6. Let parents make decisions on where they choose to move. Give lots of options within their budget. Go on tours of prospective homes or living facilities. Again, point out the positives but listen to them when they don’t like something.
7. Finally, don’t beat yourself up. There is not a family that does not confront this issue at some point. But by keeping the conversation focused and steered clear from raised voices, this will eventually be a good thing for everyone concerned.